Sex Is Worth Waiting For

One of the keys to developing personal significance is the freedom to fail, the freedom not to be perfect.  Such freedom can be present only when a person feels security, when a person feels accepted for who he is, not for what he does.  That kind of security is what young people need to develop in their relationships.  And when they do, it will pay off in their marriage.

When two people are committed to each other, they both have freedom.  They don't need to put on a show to gain the other's approval.  Then, when they are married, they have the security to be themselves, to admit what they do not know.  They don't have to be experts on their honeymoon because they are admitted amateurs.  Part of the thrill of beginning a life together is learning about sex together, guiding and helping each other.   It forms an extremely strong bond in marriage, since, to a greater degree than anything else they will ever encounter, they are doing it together.

That is worth waiting for.


Josh McDowell and Dick Day, "Why Wait?" p.124

America Has Fallen

America cannot fall—because she has already fallen!  This goes for Britain, too.  She cannot go into slavery—because her people are fettered at the moment in the chains of self-forged, self-chosen moral anarchy.  Here are millions, diseased morally, with no longing for healing.  Here are men paying for shadows at the price of their immortal souls, men who not only reject the Substance, but who openly sneer at and caricature it.

An unprecedented tidal wave of commandment-breaking, God-defying, soul-destroying iniquity sweeps the ocean of human affairs.  Never before have men in the masses sold their souls to the devil at such bargain prices.  “There is none . . . that stirreth up himself to take hold of Thee” (Isa.64:7).  What hell-born mesmerism holds them?  How does the spell bind?  Who brainwashed them?  Why don’t they wake and stir themselves?

Directed by the devil, the world has given a new injection to the flesh.  One of the signs of “the last days” is that “men are lovers of pleasures.”  (Note that it is in the plural.)  And where is hell’s broth stewed? In the breweries of the world. . .  Breweries are maternity clinics that breed men-slayers operating with guns, and men driving on the highways while drunken. . . 

The mad merry-go-round of sensuality is filled with millions awaiting their turn for initiation into iniquity.  When wrong is so sweet a morsel, the sin-soaked, sex-slain youth could not care less about doing right.  One crowded hour of glorious “life”—so they argue—is worth a gamble on the speculation of the theologians’ so-called “eternity.

Leonard Ravenhill,  Why Revival Tarries (1959), pg.93-94

Drugging Children Into Compliance

Through natural learning children learn critical thinking, social skills, bonding with friends and family, and develop a genuine interest in knowledge. In structured, rigid schooling, especially the forced government variety, children learn conformity, compliance, memorization, the importance of following arbitrary rules, and to blindly respect those in positions of "authority," whether they deserve it or not. . . . And if children aren’t perfectly conforming to the rigid idea of what is "normal" behavior, if they express themselves, and stand out – then these children are slapped with various diagnoses, then drugged into compliance.

The Absurdity of Public School

HT to J.L. Pattison

The Disaster of Fatherless Children

"Controlling for socioeconomic status, race, and place of residence, the strongest predictor of whether a person will end up in prison is that he was raised by a single parent. By 1996, 70 percent of inmates in state juvenile detention centers serving long-term sentences were raised by single mothers. Seventy-two percent of juvenile murderers and 60 percent of rapists come from single-mother homes. Seventy percent of teenage births, dropouts, suicides, runaways, juvenile delinquents, and child murderers involve children raised by single mothers. Girls raised without fathers are more sexually promiscuous and more likely to end up divorced. A 1990 study by the Progressive Policy Institute showed that after controlling for single motherhood, the difference between black and white crime rates disappeared.

Various studies have come up with slightly different numbers, but all the figures are grim. According to the Index of Leading Cultural Indicators, children from single-parent families account for 63 percent of all youth suicides, 70 percent of all teenage pregnancies, 71 percent of all adolescent chemical/substance abuse, 80 percent of all prison inmates, and 90 percent of all homeless and runaway children.

A study cited in the Village Voice produced similar numbers. It found that children brought up in single-mother homes ‘are five times more likely to commit suicide, nine times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances, 14 times more likely to commit rape (for the boys), 20 times more likely to end up in prison, and 32 times more likely to run away from home.’ Single motherhood is like a farm team for future criminals and social outcasts.”

Cited by John Hawkins, “Five Consequences of America’s Moral Collapse”

Most Pleasure With Least Regret

People who believe what the Bible teaches about sexuality are sometimes viewed as killjoys, as those who won't let others have any fun.  That's not it at all!  We want people to have the most pleasure with the least regret.  We want people to be more than beasts, more than dogs or donkeys.  We want people to have more than physical trysts that cheapen, demean, and dehumanize.  We want people to enjoy the comprehensive interpersonal union of soul and body in the exclusive, permanent, monogamous, life-producing covenant of marriage.

James M. Hamilton, "Song of Songs," pg. 61

Sex is For Marriage

God has designed physical lover for it to give pleasure in marriage.  Outside of marriage, prior to marriage... love may give pleasure, but it comes with shame, fear, guilt, and regret.  Within marriage, love will please.

James M. Hamilton, "Song of Songs," pg. 61

Lust

You can appreciate beauty without lusting, but if you feed your lust you will make the monster strong and large to devour you.

James M. Hamilton, "Song of Songs," pg.56

Pornography Plague

Our culture suffers from a plague of pornography.  Perhaps nothing more threatens the purity of the church today than the smut the world slobbers over.  Freedom from the filth comes in the desire for a more powerful pleasure.  The degrading, dehumanizing, objectifying prostitution of pleasure on offer from the worlds a twisted perversion of the true satisfaction to be found in the enjoyment of God's good gift within the boundaries of God's good commandments.

James M. Hamilton, "Song of Songs," pg.24

ADHD Voted Into Existence

ADHD was voted into existence in 1987 by a committee of the American Psychiatric Association.  The recognition of ADHD as a "psychiatric disorder" was the culmination of social, political, economic, medical, and psychological factors coming together at just the right time.  Bolstered by politics and money, the outrageous claims of the ADHD industry have persistently escaped scrutiny.  As a result, millions of responsible and loving parents have medicated their children on the advice of the "experts" in child behavior.  Additionally, as an outgrowth of the wildly successful ADHD drug industry, today are the pharmacological treatments for adults who are unable to concentrate.  

David M. Tyler, Ph.D and Kurt P. Grady, Pharm.D,  ADHD: Deceptive Diagnosis, pg. 83

The Tyranny of Ideas

One of the principal lessons of our tragic century, which has seen so many millions of innocent lives sacrificed in schemes to improve the lot of humanity, is -- beware of intellectuals . . . For intellectuals, far from being highly individualistic and non-conformist people, follow certain regular patterns of behavior.  Taken as a group, they are often ultra-conformist within the circles formed by those whose approval they seek and value . . . [enabling] them to create climates of opinion and prevailing orthodoxies, which themselves often generate irrational and destructive courses of action.  Above all, we must at all times remember what intellectuals habitually forget: that people matter more than concepts and must come first.  The worst of all despotisms is the heartless tyranny of ideas.

Paul Johnson, Intellectuals, pg. 342.  Cited by Ravi Zacharias in "The Real Face of Atheism," pg.67

"Brave New World" is Upon Us

Man in control and moving irreversibly closer to the Brave New World is detailed in Aldous Huxley's "fiction" where the words "mother and father" are obscenities; families non-existent; adults totally promiscuous never marrying; and private property non-existent.  Controlled offspring are produced in efficient state-run hatchery laboratories, "decanted" from test tubes, and raise in state institutions where they are encouraged to engage in "erotic play" on the playground.  When depression and the meaninglessness of this life overwhelmed them, the inhabitants self-medicate at will using "soma," a drug to enhance and relax or to reliever anxiety or any cowardly reaction to their existence in the "brave new world."   The Rockefeller agencies appear to be working toward a similar eugenic world for American law, medicine, social sciences, mass communications, and government, while neutralizing the Church and the ministry as effective representatives of the Creator's fixed order.

Judith A. Reisman, Ph.D, "Kinsey: Crimes & Consequences," pg.253

Safe Sex?

Dr. [Patrick] Dixon sums the matter up succinctly:  "Condoms do not make sex safe, they simply make it safer.  Safe sex is sex between two partners who are not infected!  This means a lifelong, faithful partnership between two people who were virgins and who know remain faithful to each other for life."

John Stott, Same-Sex Partnerships?: A Christian Perspective, p.64

Not Many Gentlemen Left

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Is It Loving?

Most People Do Not Invest In Cohabiting Couples

Marriage "integrates the couple with the larger community" in a way that cohabitation does not, says professor Arland Thornton of the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan -- one of the world's leading schools of family sociology -- in his recent book-length examination of the differences in cohabiting and married couples.  Therefore, he finds, "the relationships of cohabiters with parents and others are often quite different from the family relationships of married people."

Thornton explains that numerous studies published from the mid-eighties to the 2000s find that "cohabiting unions are generally not entered into with the same commitment to the permanence of the relationship that characterizes entrance into marriage."

And this is not jet the couple's commitment but also the feeling of investment that their friends and family have in the marriage.  Others don't have this same feeling of being invested in a cohabiting relationship.  Even as cohabiting becomes more common and socially accepted, it has still be shown that cohabiting couples are more likely to be isolated from their circle of friends and family.

Glenn T. Stanton, The Ring Makes All the Difference, p.44

Psychology Creates Social Pollution

Modern psychology has created widespread "social pollution" by its analytical (and also reductionist) emphasis on the isolated individual and its relentless hostility to social bonds as expressed in tradition, community structures, and the family.

Paul C. Vitz, "Psychology As Religion: The Cult of Self-Worship," p.66

Oh, The Irony of the LEFT!

Liberals support the "right" of an abortionist to kill a woman's unborn baby; of the state to terminate life (euthanasia); and the intentional destruction of human embryos for scientific research (embryonic stem cell research), but don't support the death penalty for convicted murderers because they say that is cruel, unjust and inhumane.  The advocates of "choice" claim "innocent" people could unfairly die.

Gregg Jackson, Conservative Comebacks to Liberal Lies, p.142

Man and Woman -- Equal Yet Different

Commenting on the special creation of Eve, Matthew Henry nearly 300 years ago wrote with quaint profundity that she was "not made out of his head to top him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved."  Perhaps he got this idea from Peter Lombard who in about AD 1157, just before becoming Bishop of Paris, wrote in his Book of Sentences:  "Eve was not taken from the feet of Adam to be his slave nor from his head to be his lord, but from his side to be his partner."

John Stott, Decisive Issues Facing Christians Today, p.263-264

Love vs Lust

In his new book, Lust, [Simon] Blackburn presents an updated vision of lust as sexual desire for its own sake.  If lust now has a bad press, Blackburn wants to be its public relations agent.  Lust is inevitably compared with love.  Blackburn understands the quandary, noting, "We smile at lovers holding hands in the park.  But we wrinkle our noses if we find them acting out their lust under the bushes.  Love receives the world's applause.  Lust is furtive, ashamed, and embarrassed.   Love pursues the good of the other, with self-control, concern, reason, and patience.  Lust pursues its own gratification, headlong, impatient of any control, immune to reason."  As a moral philosopher, Blackburn understands that love requires knowledge, reason, and time, combined with truth and trust.  Lust, on the other hand, is symbolized by "a trail of clothing in the hallway" that represents a loss of reason, self-control, and discipline.

R. Albert Mohler, Jr., Desire and Deceit: The Real Cost of Sexual Tolerance, p.13

IBM Helped With the Holocaust

IBM custom-designed the indispensable systems that located European Jews and other undesirables, and then provided a multiplicity of custom-tailored punch card programs to help the Nazis trace family trees, index bank accounts and other property, organize eugenic campaigns and even manage extermination in death camps. . . . 

Just after Hitler rose to power, IBM initiated an aggressive commercial compact with Nazi Germany, generating windfall profits as it organized and systemized the Reich's anti-Jewish and eugenic programs.  As the Hitler regime took each step in its war against the Jews and all of Europe, IBM custom-designed the punch cards and other data processing solutions to streamline those campaigns into what the company described as "blitzkrieg efficiency."

It began in 1933, when the company designed and executed Hitler's first census.  From there, IBM's involvement with the Reich mushroomed.  On January 8, 1934, IBM opened a million-dollar factory in Berlin to manufacture Hollerith machines and coordinate data processing functions.  At the factory opening, the manager of IBM's German subsidiary, Willi Heidinger, spoke vividly about what IBM technology would do for Germany's biological destiny.  Standing next to the personal representative of IBM president Thomas J. Watson, and with numerous Nazi Party officials in attendance at a ceremony bedecked by swastika flags and Storm Trooper honor guards, Heidinger emotionally declared that population statistics were key to eradicating the unhealthy, inferior segments of German society. . .  

Most of Heidinger's speech, along with a list of the invited Nazi Party officials, was rushed to Manhattan and immediately translated for Watson.  The IBM leader cabled Heidinger a prompt not of congratulations for a job well done and sentiments well expressed.


Edwin Black, "War Against the Weak: Eugenics and America's Campaign to Create a Master Race," p.290, 308-309

The Fraud of Big Drug Companies

If everyone has the ill, then all must take the pill.  Already huge, the market in psychotropic drugs is constantly growing.  When the adult market seemed saturated, the drug companies expanded their customer demographics by pushing product onto children -- it is not by accident that all the recent epidemics of psychiatric disorder have occurred in kids.  And children are particularly choice customers -- bring them on board early, and you may have them for life.  At the other end of the life cycle, companies targeted the elderly, selling antipsychotics like hotcakes in nursing homes.  Pharma has not been constrained by the fact that children and the elderly are the two most difficult demographic groups to diagnose accurately or that they are the most vulnerable to harmful drug side effects or that excessive use of antipsychotics in nursing homes results in increased mortality.  And, even more troubling, it is the very most vulnerable of kids who get the most medicine -- those who are economically disadvantaged or in foster care.

Seven percent of Americans are now addicted to a legal psychotropic drug.  Prescription drug abuse has become a bigger problem than illicit drug abuse.  If there is a conceivable way to sell a new diagnosis so that people will incorrectly believe they have it, drug companies will have figured it out and will do it successfully -- if sometimes illegally.  Big Pharma seems to feel above the law.  Almost all of the companies have absorbed huge fines and even criminal penalties as punishment for their illegal sales practices.

Allen Frances, M.D, "Saving Normal," p.95

The Fraud of Psychotherapeutic Drugs

Since drugs like Valium do not treat any specific disease, does that mean that they are not effective?  On the contrary, such drugs are exceedingly effective as psychotherapeutic agents not because of their pharmacological properties but because they enhance the basic components of psychotherapy.  They are compatible with a Western cultural worldview which posits that everything can be helped by modern technology - better living through chemistry.  They enhance the personal qualities of the therapist because giving a drug demonstrates the caring quality of the therapist; the client may be symbolically taking home little pieces of the therapist in a pill bottle.  Drugs dramatically increase a client's expectations that he or she will improve, and this is known to be a major source of the effectiveness of all pharmacological agents.  Finally, drugs are used to increase a person's sense of mastery.  An injunction to "take one of these three times a day and you will cope with stress better" is analogous to the major elixirs used in mythology; it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and the person does cope better.

E. Fuller Torrey, M.D., Witchdoctors and Psychiatrists: The Common Roots of Psychotherapy and Its Future, p.81

Only a Housewife?

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The Psychotherapy Culture

Several studies have shown that mental health professionals are heavily concentrated in university towns and in affluent communities where the college-educated settle.  The problems for which most of these people seek help are not serious mental illness, but rather intrapersonal (e.g., low self-esteem) and interpersonal (e.g., marital) difficulties.  (Indeed, "It was recently reported that in one part of the United States [an academic setting] the principal presenting symptom for patients who offer themselves to be analyzed by analysts-in-training is the difficulty of completing their Ph.D. dissertations.")  Freud himself stated, "The optimum conditions for . . . [psychoanalytic psychotherapy exist where not needed -- i.e., among the healthy."  Thus professional mental health resources are strongly oriented toward the worried well rather than the suffering sick.

E. Fuller Torrey, M.D., in "Freudian Fraud: the Malignant Effect of Freud's Theory on American Thought and Culture," p.208

Scientists Are Biased

Scientists come in two basic forms, male and female, and they are just like you and me.  They have beliefs and biases.  A bias determines what you do with the evidence, especially the way in which you decide that certain evidence is more relevant or important that other evidence.  Scientists are not objective truth-seekers; they are not neutral.

Ken Ham, The Lie, p.8

No One Is Responsible

The nebulous notion of "defective mental condition" evolved in later cases into saying that someone "suffering from an abnormal condition of the mind" was not responsible for his crime.  To follow this logic, the more horrible the crime, the further the criminal departed from civilized norms and by definition the more "abnormal" his mental condition.  By such reasoning, every violation of law should be excused.

Thomas Sowell, "The Vision of the Anointed," p.156

Independence?

Pandora's Box

Artistry by Dan Lietha of Answers In Genesis

What is a Right?

Liberals think a right is some sort of cosmic force that guarantees them whatever they want.

Matt Walsh