One of the keys to developing personal significance is the freedom to fail, the freedom not to be perfect. Such freedom can be present only when a person feels security, when a person feels accepted for who he is, not for what he does. That kind of security is what young people need to develop in their relationships. And when they do, it will pay off in their marriage.
When two people are committed to each other, they both have freedom. They don't need to put on a show to gain the other's approval. Then, when they are married, they have the security to be themselves, to admit what they do not know. They don't have to be experts on their honeymoon because they are admitted amateurs. Part of the thrill of beginning a life together is learning about sex together, guiding and helping each other. It forms an extremely strong bond in marriage, since, to a greater degree than anything else they will ever encounter, they are doing it together.
That is worth waiting for.
Josh McDowell and Dick Day, "Why Wait?" p.124
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