Being left fatherless through death is totally different from being fatherless due to a deliberate choice of the father or mother. Interestingly, studies show that when fathers are away for unavoidable purpose such as war, children do not suffer to the same degree as when the father chooses to leave or is shut out from the family unit. Of course an orphaned child suffers, yet Mom feels comfortable talking about the father. She might say, “Your father would have been proud of you.” Although physically dead, these fathers live on in their families.
Rabbi Daniel Lapin, "America's Real War," pg.186