While children in straight families are allowed to “express unhappiness about something going on in their home,” the same is not true for children in gay families. They are “warned that they are guilty of homophobia if they are unhappy with their home life or, alternatively, told always to direct blame at external homophobia and exonerate their parents’ decisions.”
For all of Justice Kennedy’s concern about concern about conferring the “dignity” of marriage on same-sex couples, there’s little concern about conferring suffering on the children raised in such relationships. A relentless focus on adult desire has left us astonishingly calloused.
Ryan T. Anderson, “Truth Overruled: The Future of Marriage and Religious Freedom,” pg.172