[N]early all of the women—and a solid majority of the men—with whom we spoke in person want to marry. But many of them do not know how to make it happen. Marriage as it has been conventionally understood—faithful, closed (to others), enduring, kids, the whole package deal—is a desired state into which very many young Americans hope someday to naturally and passively find themselves. They do not think of it as a pathway requiring their present-time discipline, discernment, sacrifice, self-control, and prudent judgment, together with ample amounts of the same from their peers. Young Americans are not practicing to be married, but rather hoping to someday wake up in it.
Mark Regnerus, Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy, pg.174
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