I have never suggested that the only reason to abstain from sex before marriage is because God said so. You should abstain from sex before marriage because it is an intimate act reserved for knowing a person on an intimately emotional level. Sex is actually less intimate in some ways than knowing somebody on a deeper, emotional level.
Sex becomes intimate when tied to commitment. And marriage is the only form of commitment that matters. Sorry, but labeling yourself boyfriend and girlfriend or moving in together are not forms of genuine commitment. The door remains open.
Sex before marriage is particularly foolish for women because - unlike women - men treat sex as an achievement, not a form of commitment.
Again, marriage is the only genuine form of commitment. And when you are married, exposing the most intimate parts of your life to your spouse is perfectly appropriate. Doing so beforehand doesn't create a higher level of trust and bond. It actually makes you more insecure because now you've confided the intimate parts of yourself to someone you're not fully committed to.
Ben Shapiro, 8/22/23, Facebook post.
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