Friday, March 7, 2014

A Good Marriage Is Not Luck

Dr. Laura, the radio shrink, read a letter the other day from a listener telling how tire she was of hearing her friends always say how "lucky" she was because she was still married to her college sweetie, had borne and raised wonderful children, kept a beautiful house with six goldfish.

She articulated her irritation with several blunt questions: "Was it luck that I married as a virgin, at great hardship to myself and my future husband?  That we put off marriage until we both earned our college degrees?  Was it luck that we decided against divorce because we were determined to work at remaining committed to each other and to our children?  Was it luck that after our first child was born, I became a full-time mother and a single income meant beans for supper almost every night?"


Suzanne Fields, "Stop the presses: Teens need love!," 9/11/97, L.A. Times Syndicate

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