You can't say to someone, "I love you. Let's live together to see what happens." On those terms, either of you can split at a moment's notice. As a result you never really can be yourself or feel free to disagree without fear of losing the other person. You can never have the liberty to share your deepest feelings. You have to hold back. The relationship doesn't get a chance to grow because it is based on a conditional acceptance which is the cover for the self-gratification of two people indulging themselves in what they politely term a meaningful relationship. Real commitment, on the other hand, says, "I am willing to spend my life with you to see you grow." . . .
Others say, "For as long as we both shall love . . . ." Love may have some cold spots, and it alone will never be enough to hold two people together. It's commitment that carries them over difficult times. Commitment is what God intended between a man and a woman. That is why he set up marriage - to express a lifelong commitment.
Michael Zadig, HIS, March 1977, p.7, as cited by Robertson McQuilkin, An Introduction to Biblical Ethics, p.191
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